A memoir by Schalk Bothma

ORDINARY

A Story of Breath, Love, and the Ordinary Moments That Become Everything.

By Schalk Bothma

What if the moments we think are ordinary turn out to be the moments that matter most?

COMING SOON · Planned soft release: 15 December 2026

Front cover of ORDINARY by Schalk Bothma
The Story

The moments that become everything.

We spend so much of life waiting for something extraordinary: more time, a miracle, tomorrow.

Then Schalk met Tanya, and they built a life together. There was marriage, parenthood, laughter and the quiet rhythm of everyday life. There were also serious illness, lung transplants, uncertainty and the long, difficult work of hoping.

Through it all, life continued in the small spaces between the big events: family dinners, school runs, messages, shared moments and simply being together.

After Tanya died, Schalk began to understand those ordinary moments differently. What had once seemed like the background of their lives had become the very thing he missed most.

ORDINARY is a deeply personal story of love, caregiving, hope, loss and the uncertain journey of learning to live again. It offers no perfect answers. Instead, it asks us to look again at the lives we are living, and the people beside us.

MEMOIR  |  LOVE  |  CAREGIVING  |  LOSS  |  HOPE
Tanya, from the cover of ORDINARY
Tanya

A life that continues to matter.

Tanya was a wife, a mother and the heart of the home that Schalk writes about. ORDINARY is her story as much as his: a life lived fully, in the middle of serious illness, in family dinners, school runs and shared moments.

This book is an act of love, and a way of keeping her present.

Love continues to shape the lives we touch.
ORDINARY book cover
The Book

ORDINARY

A Story of Breath, Love, and the Ordinary Moments That Become Everything.

By Schalk Bothma. A deeply personal story of love, caregiving, hope, loss and the uncertain journey of learning to live again. It offers no perfect answers. It asks us to look again at the lives we are living.

ISBN
978-1-0483-7406-3
Genre
Memoir
Planned soft release
15 December 2026
Planned formal launch
2 February 2027
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About Schalk

The story behind the story.

Schalk Bothma is a husband, father and writer. ORDINARY is his account of a life shaped by love, the experience of caring for someone through serious illness, and the challenge of finding a way forward after loss.

Schalk Bothma
Letters from Ordinary

A little more room for what matters.

Reflections on love, uncertainty, grief, the things we carry and the ordinary moments that help us find our way forward.

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Beyond the Book

The conversation continues.

ORDINARY is the start of a wider conversation about caregiving, serious illness, uncertainty, grief, loss and rebuilding. Thoughtful conversations and practical resources will be shared here in time.

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Sometimes, ordinary moments become everything.